Many of us have experienced hurt from various sources throughout our lives. Sometimes from strangers…and sometimes from those who are the closest to us. As we attempt to process the experience and we begin to rehearse the event repeatedly within our minds, sometimes we are opening ourselves up to forces of a spiritual nature beyond our control. Hurt turns into anger. Anger turns into bitterness. Bitterness becomes resentment. At the end of this evolutionary cycle lies hate.
We, as Christians, have the best intentions in mind when we begin to quote Bible verses that we believe will help to ease and relieve the person of the pain. However, if the wound has been allowed to fester over time, we must understand that throwing out a few verses here and there is not going to remedy the situation. This does negate the power that lies within the Word of God. But it does show that the longer the event has been allowed to fester untreated, the longer the healing process will be. Why? Because we would have to get to the root of the problem and the problem has layer upon layer that needs to be penetrated through in order to arrive at the point of discovering what is essential to bringing resloution and healing to the wounded soul.
Although it is true, that the Word of God is full of power (Heb. 4:12), but having knowledge of the Word is not enough. In addition to this, knowing when and how to apply the Word is on a completely different level from merely having knowledge of the Word. Solomon teaches us,
“A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. The tongue of the wise useth knowledge aright: but the mouth of the fools poureth out foolishness…A wholesome tongue is a tree of life: but perverseness therein is a breach in the spirit…” (Prov. 15:1,2,4)
We cannot place demands upon others to reach a point of resolution upon our own timetable. We must understand that each situation is unique and requires us to exercise wisdom and understanding in providing counsel to them. We run the risk of damaging the person further if we attempt to rush them through the process of healing at an accelerated rate above which they have the capacity with which to address the issue. Paul says,
“Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man…” (Col. 4:6)
Tough love is not always the answer. Sometimes people only need us to both listen AND hear what they have to say. Sometimes we need to remain silent in order to listen and hear what they have to say. Knowing the Word is not enough…but knowing how and when to apply the Word brings about a multitude of change and much better results…#thinkonthesethings