Everyone talks about either finding a mentor or becoming one. We have seen many people attach the ‘coach’ nomenclature to their credentials. This is not a slight against those whom have legitimately become certified. I actually applaud their willingness to do so. However, it is the ones who feel as though they can speak into the lives of others with neither the experience nor the training that concern me.
Innocent people have entrusted their lives and futures to these ‘life and career experts’, and have received a minimal return. Oftentimes, these ‘expert’ people have not taken into consideration that those who look to them for guidance only want to enhance their quality of living. My questions become, “Do they genuinely care? Do they have their best interests in mind? Or are they concerned more about their own personal brand?”
We must be extremely careful about whom we allow to speak over our lives. To ensure that we do not make impulsive decisions, the Bible teaches in the book of Proverbs,
“…a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels…” (1:5)
“Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety…” (11:14).
Also, to ensure that we wisely choose our counselors, Proverbs teaches us that,
“The thoughts of the righteous are right: but the counsels of the wicked are deceit…” (12:5).
Everyone is not qualified to speak into our lives. Just because someone places a few letters behind their name does not qualify them as “wise counsel”. At least, not in the Biblical sense. Especially as it pertains to fulfilling our purpose. Mentoring others suggests that the mentor has some form of knowledge and/or experience in the area he/she is speaking about. In addition, it also means that this person is capable of imparting this knowledge to a less knowledgeable person.
It is unfortunate that some people will take advantage of others to advance their personal agendas. This, however, is nothing new. In my estimation, we each have a responsibility to raise awareness of this issue and become our brothers and sisters keeper. If we know of someone who is interested in being mentored, then we should assist them in their endeavors as much as possible. Conversely, if we know of anyone seeking to become a mentor, we should extend the same courtesy to them as well. This is how we build community. This is how we build up each other.