The Dangers Of Expectations

Hello my Friends! I felt badly on yesterday because I did not write anything. I understand that the “rules” do not mandate that I write daily; however, I feel as though God somehow uses some of my thoughts to encourage others. One never knows whose lives he or she will touch. Today, I am writing because I would like to share some of my personal thoughts with you. This is not a deep theological treatise. It is actually just random thinking.

How much consideration do we give to the other person’s feelings?

Love those within your life. Allow them to be who God created them to become. We all have some gift to share with the world. We, also, have our own way of presenting these gifts. The world has placed more than enough pressure on each of us to conform to its standards. No one needs additional expectations placed upon them. It becomes too much after awhile.

I had a revealing thought yesterday. The expectations we see within all forms of relationships today were not there a couple of decades ago. Since technology has advanced so rapidly, the demands for others’ time has also increased. If a person is being pulled in multiple directions simultaneously, then, at some point, they will eventually begin to break down. Each person can only give up to the point of their capacity. Once a person has no more to give, then of what use are they to others within their families and communities?

Our reality is not the same as someone else’s reality. We do not always have a clear grasp of where others may be existing in their current station of life.

Another thought came to mind as well. What did people do prior to the rapid advancement of technology? People lived their lives. So what has changed that causes us to place such high expectations upon others? Lives are being destroyed daily because we tend to think that someone owes us their undivided attention and gifts twenty-four hours of each day. This is not fair to them, nor is it just.

I think we should take a step back to reflect on what life was like prior to the technological advance. Please do not take what I am saying the wrong way. I think technology is a great blessing. However, I also think that it can become a great curse if we do not place some restraints upon ourselves. If we look throughout history, someone has always taken something meant for good, and have abused (abnormally used) it for personal gain. We are all guilty of it. I am guilty of it.

All I am asking is that we consider how our expectations of others make them feel. Although we may feel as though the expectations are reasonable, try to place yourself in the other person’s place. We may quickly learn that our expectations are not as rational as we believed initially. What are your thoughts? I would appreciate any feedback from anyone. This is a community effort to living our best life in honor of the One Who has given us this life to live. Love God, love others and love yourself!

Sean Mungin, author of “The Thorn In The Flesh”

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